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Dave's convinced she has my nose


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We're having a baby girl! While you've probably already heard this news by now - either by phone call, text, or facebook - I wanted to document it on our blog as well since this undoubtedly is serving as a little pregnancy journal for us.

We are both so thrilled that we're having a little girl. Dave and I both admitted that we secretly wanted a baby girl first and well, if the ultrasound proves correct, in just a few short months our house will fill with all things girly. I'm excited for all the pink and for little dresses with matching hairbows. Dave is looking forward to many father-daughter dates, teaching her how to golf, tea parties and playing dress up, and of course scaring away potential boyfriends someday :)

Perhaps it's just coincidence but it appears that a lot of those trusty old wives tales actually proved correct in our case. We found today that we have a stubborn little baby on our hands (Dave says she already takes after me) - she didn't want to open her legs no matter how much we tried. She just wanted to sit Indian-style or kick my bladder repeatedly. Finally near the end, she gave us a nice bottom's up view so we could see that she was in fact a she. It was amazing to see all of her features up close. We saw all her fingers and toes, her fast-beating heart, her tiny little nose and lips... we were already in awe of how beautiful she looked. We were happy to hear that she is perfectly healthy and that all the measurements were within normal range. We pray things continue to progress perfectly and that in a few short months we'll welcome our beautiful baby girl to the world.

Weekly Pregnancy Post

Here you have it. Your first glimpse of the itsy bitsy baby bump. I'm not sure if I've really popped yet but my belly certainly has grown in the past two weeks. I still feel as though I'm in the awkward stage where I don't quite look pregnant but I certainly look like I've put on some weight in the mid-section. You be the judge.

We're almost half-way through the pregnancy! Tomorrow we have our big ultrasound appointment where hopefully we'll find out the baby's gender. We're so excited to see our baby again and to see how much it has grown in the past seven weeks.

How Far Along: 19 Weeks

Pregnancy Symptoms: It appears the nausea is back to stay - at least for a while. This week was especially rough. The nausea can't seem to be appeased and just sort of lingers all day, being most intense in the morning and late evenings. I think it's mostly just irritating, especially now that I'm back to work. Speaking of work, I'm noticing my body is incredibly sore now that I'm sitting most of the day. I've had other pregnant ladies tell me this only gets worse from here and that it's common but it's just uncomfortable. My tailbone, hips, and upper legs are always sore which makes sleeping comfortably an impossible task. Luckily the charlie-horse leg cramps are less frequent these days thanks to Safi and her advice of a banana a day (thank you thank you thank you - it works!!!). The hubby and my mom would tell you that I was especially moody and emotional this week... chalk it up to hormones and not feeling well. If you see my hubby, ask him about the little gray hair I found on his head today - he'll first deny it even exists and then he'll blame it on my pregnancy hormones. Welcome to pregnancy Dave :)

Food Cravings: Pizza and bread. I think I've eaten more pizza this week than I'd like to admit. I'm sure that the whole no weight gain thing is falling by the wayside... I'm guessing I've gained at least 2-4 pounds in the last three weeks or so thanks to the mass amounts of carbs I've consumed.

What I Miss: Being able to sleep on my back. It's ironic that the most comfortable position I find during pregnancy is lying on my back yet it's the one position I'm told isn't good for the baby (something about cutting off its blood supply).

Maternity Clothes: I'm having a love-hate relationship with my closet these days. The maternity pants are just a tad too big no matter how many times I attempt to shrink them in the dryer and my pre-pregnancy pants were all too tight in the belly so they're packed away. My pre-pregnancy tops still fit for the most part but when they're all baggy I feel like I just look fat. I've found a few cute maternity tops that'll look cute as the belly grows. Until then, whatever matches and fits makes the cut!

Best Pregnancy Moments of the Week: Being able to talk with other expectant moms. I wish all my friends could experience pregnancy at the same time as me - it would certainly make the experience easier and much more fun. While at a wedding last night, Dave and I sat with some of his friends from college at what we deemed the "pregnant table". Three of the four girls were expecting and it was so refreshing to talk babies and pregnancy and compare notes. It also nice to not be the only one not drinking, sitting uncomfortably, frequenting the ladies room often, and indulging in two pieces of wedding cake :) Another favorite moment of the week, chopping my hair. Everyone told me not to cut my hair while pregnant - that I'd regret it. Something about pregnant women not making sound decisions. Let me tell you, when your hair is growing like a week, nothing feels better than a fresh haircut. Short hair is much easier to straighten and cuts the getting ready time in half. I'm loving it. You'll just have to excuse my weekend laziness in the belly picture - I didn't feel like straightening the hair today and I'm well aware I look kinda like a mop top.

Lance and Rachel's wedding this weekend

Predictions

A week from today we find out the gender of Baby Irish - that is if our active little one decides to cooperate. So for fun, we decided to take a few gender prediction quizes online as well as debunk a few old wive's tales to see if we can acurately predict what is (or isn't) hiding between baby's legs.

First, here are the results of five of the online gender predictor quizes. I randomly googled "gender predictor quizes" and took the first five that came up. The results are exactly as they appeared on the screen:

Parents.com quiz: It's a boy!

Babyzone.com: It could be a girl.

Childbirth.org: You have a 72% chance of having a girl.

Justmommies.com: 67% chance of having a girl.

Babygenderpredition.com: 60% chance of having a boy.

And just for fun, thebump.com's chinese gender predictor says we're having a boy.

So, based on the predictor quizes, we're having a girl but if you add in that chinese gender predictor we're even. Perhaps breaking down some of the common old wives tales will yield a different result.

Carrying High, Carrying Low: According to this old wive's tale, we're expecting a boy because it appears I'm carrying low. But science says that how you carry is based on muscle and the position of the baby.

Heartbeats: The story goes, if the heartbeat is above 140 it's a girl and under is a boy. At our 16 week appointment baby's heartbeat was still a strong 155. Prior to that it was up in the 170's. This old wive's tale would indicate we're having a girl.

Craving Something?: Sweets mean a girl, sour or salty foods indicate a boy. Given the massive amounts of chocolate I've ingested lately, I'd say my cravings are sweets-centered. Another point for a little girl.

Time to Shave: They say if the hair on your legs is growing faster during pregnancy then you're having a boy. Given that I'm grabbing for the razor on a daily basis, I think it's safe to say this tale points to a boy.

Green at the Gills: Morning sickness early in pregnancy indicates a girl. Unfortunately, I had plenty of morning, noon, and night sickness early in pregnancy (and even today) so we're giving another point to the girl tally.

Meat or Fruit?: Craving meat usually points to a boy, according to the old tales while craving fruit indicates a girl. Given my strong dislike of meat throughout this pregnancy, I'm going with fruit on this one. I wonder if there's a prediction for fruit causing heartburn because that's certainly happening lots these days. Another girl point.

Mirror, Mirror: Story goes, baby girls steal their mother's looks during pregnancy. While Dave will tell you I'm looking good during pregnancy (thanks, love), I beg to differ. Hormones have caused my skin to break out and I always look tired. I'm still waiting for the pregnancy glow to kick in.

Mmmm, bread: If there was an old wive's tale about bread, it was made for me and my bread cravings. This one has to do with the heel of the loaf of bread. If you eat it, you're having a boy and if you refuse to eat it, it's a girl. While I love bread these days, I'd only eat the heel if it was the absolute last piece and I couldn't get to the store fast enough. I'll give the point to the girl side.

Tally up those points and you get six old wive's tales that indicate a girl and two that indicate a boy. Put it all together and you'd think we're having a girl. But we aren't totally convinced. Everyone we talk to says we're having a girl except for my mom who is still sticking with her dream that we had a baby boy. Dave and I are torn. Some days I think we're having a boy simply because I can't settle on a boy's nursery theme. Other days I think it's a girl because we can't seem to settle on just one girl's name (while our boy's name has been settled since day one). Luckily, we'd be thrilled with either and are praying for a healthy baby with ten fingers and ten toes.

Stay tuned... next week we'll see how accurate those predictor tests and old wives tales were!

Weekly Pregnancy Post

I know I can't dodge the requests for belly pics much longer but I'm still not entirely ready to share the belly with the world yet. I've done a good job of hiding it until this week when it decided to pop out a little. Slowly but surely I'm transitioning from what I think looks like me gaining a few pounds (although I haven't gained any weight just yet) to a cute little pregnant belly. So if you're one of those people who keeps asking, I promise I hear you and I promise soooooon you'll get your wish :)

How Far Along: 18 Weeks

Pregnancy Symptoms: What a weird week symptom-wise this was. The nausea has returned and somedays, in full-swing. Heartburn is increasing and I'm noticing it with strange foods, especially fruit and carrots (who would've thought!). I'm having bad leg cramps when I sit too long and especially when I sleep. My skin is incredibly itchy which I hear is common but something I haven't experienced yet. I have a feeling my body is trying to adjust to being back at work because I'm even more tired than before - my new bedtime is 8:30pm and don't try to wake me because as Dave will tell you, I'll more than likely be completely disoriented and quite possibly bite your head off :)

Food Cravings: Carbs - bread (especially fresh bagels and french and sourdough) and plain pasta. I've indulged in my random sweets cravings, including tootsie rolls and oreos. Hopefully all these carbs and sweets will help me to gain a little weight - while the doctor isn't too concerned with my not gaining any weight yet, I know the hubby is. I tell him to wait a few weeks, I'm sure he'll notice me packing on a few pounds ;)

What I miss: My clothes. My favorite jeans and favorite work pants are packed away until post-baby.

Maternity Clothes: I had the biggest belly growth this week. In fact, the belly is noticeable now which means that my pre-pregnancy pants are all packed away. I tried wearing a few pairs this week, leaving them unbuttoned but it made for a very painful belly and uncomfortable sitting. Thankfully, I have a fabulous mother who so graciously took me shopping for some maternity clothes - I'm now set with a few pairs of work pants, some jeans, and a few tops. Most of my pre-pregnancy tops will fit for a while still but it's nice to have some more loose-fitting tops that are comfortable for the growth that seems to be happening quickly these days.

Best Pregnancy Moment of the Week: Feeling baby hiccup. I woke this morning to the baby hiccuping for a good 20 minutes. It's the coolest yet strangest feeling... just slightly different than when the baby moves. It's a little reminder of the tiny life growing inside me.

Welcome to Adoption

I have officially joined the adoption world. Not as an adoptive parent, or even a prospective one at this point, but as an Adoption Social Worker (or as my official title says, Adoption Placement Specialist). I’ve developed a strong understanding of adoption through my volunteer work, my family and friends who have/are adopting, and from my undergraduate thesis on international adoption. However, joining the ranks as adoption professional is very different than what I am familiar with and is proving to be quite challenging.

I am quickly learning that my understanding of adoption is actually quite limited to international adoptions, especially those using a small, private agency. I also have a greater understanding of how adoption impacts the family adopting – the process they undergo, challenges experienced, and the overall attitude of families choosing to adopt. Now I am on the other side, a side that I am so completely unfamiliar with I am left wondering how I even ended up with this job in the first place. My primary focus it the child – is adoption the best permanence plan for them? What will life be like for them because of adoption? What family fits their needs best? My priorities and thought-process needs to shift from thinking about adoption through the lense of a parent to thinking about it through the eyes of a child.

In the past few days, I’ve been exposed to my new world of adoption. I have quickly learned to change my frame of reference from that of a someday adoptive parent of a child in Africa to that of a Social Worker who will be specializing in domestic adoptions of children within the Wisconsin foster care system. Even more specifically, adoptions of teenagers and those older children who have been waiting for years or potentially their entire lives for a family. This week I’ve been exposed to the realities of adopting from the foster care system and how different the process and outcome is from most international adoptions. I have become especially aware of the realities of my job – witnessing the termination of a parent’s rights, trying to understanding why a teenager is telling me they do not want to be adopted, looking a child the face and telling them they have to move for the 6th time.

I keep reminding myself that no matter how hard or difficult the job may get for me, life will always be harder for the child whose best interest and future I am advocating for. While I certainly won’t be able to share specifics of my experiences as an adoption social worker on this blog for confidentiality reasons, I do hope to be able to continue to share lessons I learn, realities of adopting older children, and my growing heart and appreciation for the foster care system. And I will apologize in advance for the lack of blogging I’ll be doing in the next few months – between an intense training period and the exhaustion of this pregnancy, my free time is usually spent napping. I do promise I won’t disappear completely :)

Weekly Pregnancy Post

How Far Along: 17 Weeks

Pregnancy Symptoms: The tiredness is still my greatest complaint - surprise, surprise! This week I've noticed the forgetfulness and the pure emotional craziness (just ask the man at the paint counter at Home Depot about my breakdown complete with tears and forgetting my paint). This week the nausea and vomiting returned - the doctor says it may have been from a bug, my anxiety about starting my new job tomorrow, or maybe the baby just wanted to remind me it was still there. Luckily it passed in just a few days.

Food Cravings: I didn't have many cravings this week other than one completely ridiculous and impossible-to-indulge-in craving: Door County's Sweet Apple Wine. I'm not much of a drinker but the hubby and I do enjoy a glass of wine on Saturday nights. I guess I caught a whiff of his wine this weekend and really wanted one of my own but for baby's safety, I'll refrain. Lucky me, mom and dad bought me my very own bottle while in Door County this past week and it'll be waiting in the pantry for me for after the baby arrives :)

What I miss: I'm missing a good night's sleep this week. Between whatever stomach bug or anxiety I was feeling this past week and the leg cramps, the insomnia and poor sleeping started up again. I'm hoping this moves along quickly because this cool weather makes it so comfy to sleep at night.

Maternity Clothes: Each week my clothes continue to fit more awkwardly. My belly is just big enough for my regular pants to be a little too snug when buttoned up but maternity pants are still a little too big. We did notice quite a big belly growth this week so hopefully in the next few weeks I can transition to just maternity clothes. It's hard to look cute when you're throwing together whatever fits these days!

Best Pregnancy Moment of the Week: Hearing baby's heartbeat!! We were so disappointed at our 12 week appointment when the baby was moving around too much to actually catch the heartbeat. Thankfully, this time baby stayed still just long enough to hear the heartbeat for a few seconds and it was amazing! I can't even describe the sound - it was unlike anything I'd ever heard. The doctor gave us the okay to schedule our big ultrasound for the gender reveal and in just two weeks (the 27th) we'll know what baby Irish is hiding (or not hiding) between those little legs.

25 Years

On Tuesday, my parents celebrated their 25th wedding anniversary. On September 7, 1985, at the mere ages of 20 and 21, my parents vowed to spend the rest of their lives together. Five months later, I came along. It only took me until about the age of 15 to realize that I was already cooking in my mom's stomach when they got married (and no, that is not the reason they married). They were high school sweethearts with matching curly mop tops who were destined to spend the rest of their lives together :)

I am so thankful to have parents who are not only still married but who have shown me what a strong marriage looks like. They've shown me that there will certainly be difficult times but that love and faith don't waiver in times of trial. They've shown me what it means to sacrifice for one another, for the sake of their family. They've shown me unconditional love, even when I'm the one being difficult. They've taught me valuable life lessons and instilled strong values in me - both of which I will pass along to my own children. I feel prepared to become a parent in just a few short months because of their example and because I know I have their support, guidance, and love. And I know they are beyond excited to become grandparents (even if they are just in their mid-forties). I've always loved having younger parents and Dave has certainly seen the benefits as well - that's why we chose to start our family so quickly. I look forward to watching them with our children - my mom baking Christmas cookies with them, my dad taking them on their first snowmobile rides in the snow. I am so thankful that they said "I Do" twenty-five years ago because their marriage has enriched my life in so many ways.

They were supposed to be celebrating this special anniversary in Italy but a certain daughter of theirs decided she had to get married last year. Dad learned weddings aren't as cheap today as they were back in 1985 :) Next year they hope to be celebrating their 26th anniversary in Italy and I pray they make it there because I know it's been a dream! I wish everyday I could send them there myself to repay them for all the blessings they've given my life.

What's second best to Italy? Celebrating with your family, of course! We had a little family party on Sunday and we celebrated their vows and reminisced on how far their hairstyles have come since their wedding day. Thankfully, dad lost that creepy mustache, too :)